i've been feeling so stuck in the middle of things lately.
my sister is here for the week and i don't want her here but the kids need her. so i'm stuck with her.
she doesn't trust her new doctor and i get to call the social worker and try to work out a solution. so i'm stuck with her and them.
freddie wants to drive all the time. so i'm really stuck on this one.
everybody wants hot meals, clean house and clean clothes. stuck, stuck, stuck.
work wants me to actually work and not sit and talk all day long. stuck again.
don't get me wrong i love my family and want to be a good mom, sister, wife, and employee.
so how do i get unstuck?
sorry guys i'm a little emotional right now...almost that time. but i can't be the only one that feels this way from time to time. so how do we get unstuck? do we take time for ourselves? do we spend more time with Jesus? do we just have a good cry and a good sleep? i'm convinced that last one cures a multitude of attitude problems. at least for me anyways. so give me some comments. what is your number one best way to get unstuck?
Trapped in responsibility mode I see.
ReplyDeleteI've felt like that before. I would pray for God's guidance and then I would take a break. In whatever capacity you can find. Go to starbucks and turn off the cell phone. Find away and a place to have to yourself. An evening walk. A time that everyone knows to leave you alone. They will catch on quick enough, or else.
Is that good advice, or bad advice? Thats what I would do.
This is not the same, but when I get overwhelmed at work with all the hats I wear, my boss tells me to use my delegating skills.
ReplyDeleteI'm sure you already have daily or weekly chores in place, but adding something else every now and then to lighten your load would not be out of the question. Everyone likes hot meals, but sandwiches are good, too. Or if they really want a hot meal, let them fix it. That's the good thing about their ages.
I love you, and I'm praying for you. I don't mean to seem like I know what to do or what you are going through because I don't. But God does. He knows and sees everything...even the things you try to hide. He's rooting for you and so am I.
Tears and sleep are good, too. =)
I'm with REE - DELEGATE! They are all old enough to help out - let them know that you work all day and would appreciate their help when you come in at night. How about a pizza stuck in the oven and ready for when you come home - a HOT meal for you as well as the rest. Surely they could do this and it would relieve you of a big burden. Remember you are NOT super mom - but a child of the King. Get some time alone with HIM and cry out to Him. Be praying for you! Love you mostest!
ReplyDeleteOkay, I know it's not really the work. It's the enormity of it. Being the one that is suppose to keep things running smoothly. The one that keeps it together. The strong one. That is what becoms overwhelming.
ReplyDeleteThat's my word, when I say it...
Overwhelmed.
I once quit a job using that word. I've at times wanted to quit the ministry because of that word. Even life. I've been overwhelmed and prayed "Come quickly Lord Jesus!"
If you can't sneak away for a retreat to a quite place for a few days, then you must become overshadowed right where you are.
I take a day off and spend a day resting, crying, worshiping and talking to Jesus. I spend alot of time praying in the Spirit. Then I clean the house good, make a good meal, do a load of laundry, all while worshipping and I'm assured I can go on. Works everytime!
I love you and I'm praying for you.
I think when I make sure I get some time alone with Jesus every day that things are smoother. The day may be overwhelming, but life is not.
ReplyDeleteI agree with ree and jac. The kids are all old enough to give a hand. And the "but I'm in school all day" routine is out. They are no busier than you are. Divided duties lighten everyone's load, and helps each one appreciate all that is entailed in keeping that clean house, clean laundry, and hot meal. Besides that, they will gain a sense of teamwork and pride in making that difference.
well, when i feel overwhelmed i have a quiet day all to myself. (it may actually be 4 or 5 hours) where i can do all of the things that i don't have time to do while i am busy accommodating everyone else's life. spend some time with Jesus how ever i see fit. sometimes that is just sitting in my blue recliner listening to praise and worship music. cry, sleep, eat some chocolate, go for a walk, go get me a pair of earrings, or a new shirt
ReplyDeletei have definitely felt that way.
love ya, girl
and i also pray God's sweet peace over you. may you just bathe in it.
take a break. be by yourself. and i may be hostile, but if the kids are old enough to dress themselves and function independently, then they can make their own hot meals and do their own laundry. if not, just remember a clean house and clean laundry will always be there - your sanity might not.
ReplyDeleteyou need peace and quiet, even if for only a little while.
Is this what I have to look forward to with 4 teenagers one day??? =)
ReplyDeleteEvery time they ask for a "hot meal" you should feed them hot pockets. That will teach them. John David is only 7 but he requests a "big dinner" every day. I feel your pain on that one.
Sorry I can't come fix it all for you. Everyone has given lots of good words though. Love you....Take care of YOU!